“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”
We experience many losses in life – loved ones, pets, ideals, goals, dreams, careers, places, homes, and/or possessions. Family and friends can support us and journey with us through these troubled times. It is advisable to seek counselling when there have been cumulative deaths. Counselling is recommended for traumatic grief, complicated grief, and/or prolonged grief.
People diagnosed with cancer and other life-threatening diseases may experience many of these losses simultaneously. A current loss may stir up memories and emotions associated to previous losses.
Grief is a response to the loss of someone/something we cherished. We are forced to adapt to a new reality and new circumstances, often unwanted. I do not believe that we resolve grief. We learn to live with the loss. We make meaning of the loss.
In my work with clients, I explain the normal grieving process. I provide techniques to deal with anxiety. I help clients cope with the pain and find ways to mourn.
It is my belief that counselling is soul work. In times of profound upheaval such as the loss of a loved one, it is easy to lose one’s way. Counselling as soul work enables clients to return to and/or redefine their core beliefs. Core beliefs are the foundations for a life of meaning and purpose.
Glimmer of Hope
Shattered lives and shattered hearts
Shattered worlds torn apart
Tattered clothes and tattered dreams
Life blown asunder, so it seems
From the dark of night, all is lost
Devastation too high to count the cost
Yet amidst all the misery that abounds
A glimmer of hope can somehow be found
In an open heart and an outstretched hand
A compassionate smile helps us understand
We’re not alone in our desperate plight
Someone can help us win our fight
With a little faith and a little hope
We’ll find some peace and a way to cope
Thanks in part to someone who cared
Who’s willing to give and willing to share
Lynn C. Johnston